Pt2. Self-Value – How To Be Your Best You.

Pt2.. Self-value

Do you know what this means? 

There is 5 parts to How To Be Your Best You.

This list of 5 parts is the list to Happiness.

Also so you can navigate between the pages 😉

Part 1.. Self-Worth — What is self-worth?
Part 2.. Self-Value — Do you know what this means? 
Part 3.. Self-Achievement — You will show your worth in how you do the things you do equal to what you think your worth.
Part 4.. Self-Confidence — Every achievement you accomplish (no matter how big or small) you gain more and more confidence in yourself. 
Part 5.. Self-Happiness — What it means to be aligned with your self-worth and values, and overcome anything that life puts in front of you without the stress


Self-value

Pronunciation /ˌsɛlfˈvaljuː/

NOUN

  • Confidence in one’s own merit or importance; self-worth.
  • Origin
  • Late 16th century; earliest use found in Arthur Golding (d. 1606), translator.

Meaning of Self-value

Most of us are not really sure what the difference is between Self-worth and Self-value, so you’re not alone.

If you have seen Pt1. Self-worth — What is self-worth? of this 5 part system, then you already know where your worth lies, and know that you’re worthy of being your best you.

Valuing ourselves

Self-value is more behavioral than emotional, as I’ve talked about in Pt1. Self-worth is about you at your core, you on the inside, your emotional state.

And your Self-value is more about how you act outwardly equivalent to what you believe you are worth personally, not how you feel about yourself, but in your activities and achievements.

It shows itself in your actions and how you do them, equivalent to your own Self-worth, not other peoples.

The secret to Success

Now here’s the interesting part, in contrast to high self-esteem, with its tendency toward entitlement, people with high self-value always value other people. 

Where self-esteem is associative, Self-value is about equality. 

This is why: When we value others, we value ourselves more – we heighten our sense of well-being and facilitate our health, growth, and our personal development, (think of how you feel when you’re loving and compassionate to your friends and family and the ones you love). 

When we devalue someone else, we devalue ourselves—our sense of worth and our values drop, we violate our basic humanity to some degree, and become more narrow and rigid in perspective, all of which impair growth and personal development. (think of how you feel when you have devalued those around you, especially loved ones). 

In other words, when you value someone else you experience a higher state of Self-value, vitality, meaning, and purpose – and when you devalue someone else, you experience a devalued state, wherein the will to live well becomes less important than the will to control your life and dominate yourself and your world, or at least be seen as doing right.

What does it mean to value someone?

For example, if you value someone’s opinion, you will ask that person’s advice before making a big decision, as a verb, it means “holding something in high regard”, like “I value our friendship” but it can also mean “determine how much someone is worth”.

Valuing others

Start Doing What It Takes To Be Your Best You

Roadblocks, bad days, failures, procrastination: what do they have in common? 

They’re all in your head.

I’m so used to roadblocks that my instant reaction is always to find the workaround.

I’ve done some weird stuff just to jump over obstacles.

Once, not that long ago, I was having a bad day and then halfway through the day, I realized I just had a bad sleep the night before and I then started laughing

Why? 

Because I realized what the solution to my problem was and that it was easy.

All I needed to do was to go to bed earlier that night, the next day, it was like the bad day never happened.

Your success can never be blocked by an external force.

There’s always a workaround solution.

There is a solution to everything.

And that solution almost always comes from removing a mental barrier in your head.

If you need to change anything about yourself, change your perspective.

You can’t achieve success if you haven’t done anything.

There’s no big reward just for showing up.

You need to put in some time and effort into building something.

After all, the most successful people are all creators.

Mark Zuckerberg created Facebook. Jeff Bezos created Amazon. Sara Blakely created Spanx.

And if you devote your life to being a creator of yourself, you could eventually start to see what it takes to be your best you, and be successful.

But it does take time and consistent effort.

Outwork everyone.

I know it’s easier to just put on Netflix and turn off your brain after a work day, but the results you want to see come from keeping your brain turned on after hours, by outworking those around you.

In my view, knowing your Self-worth and Self-value are inextricably linked is vital in understanding your personal development.

How To Know Yourself | Jordan Peterson | Best Life Advice

Self-worth is defined as “the sense of one’s own worth as a person.”

I believe that is one part of it, but the other aspect is being able to understand how much of a difference you have made in any given situation with the contributions you have made to yourself, others and for your world, through the actions of your Self-values.

When we see value in other people our own sense of value increases and we have more pride for ourselves, it helps us to connect with other like minded individuals.

It also carries substantial social reward; showing value tends to invoke connectedness, friendship and better business agreements, whether you’re interacting one on one with somebody or with-in a group of people.


Interaction

In this short list, I would like to outline seven things that can indicate you know your values:

Self-value 1. You have positive self-esteem.

You believe in and like yourself. Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own self-worth or abilities, you are comfortable with who you are — your weight, height, colour of your hair and everything that makes and represents you, you are confident in the work you deliver and your sense of professionalism, you like and have great relationships with people, I think that without positive Self-esteem it would be difficult to know your value.

Self-value 2. You recognise the difference you make.

When you know your value, you will confidently approach a negotiation with full belief in your knowledge, skills, and experience and the difference you can make. 

For example if you help a client introduce a new process within their organisation, you are not too consumed by the process used but by how much they have benefited, have they had an increase in sales or productivity or have they saved money? 

Or it might be that you’re the main carer for a disabled or elderly relative and your presence and support is invaluable.

Self-value 3: You see yourself as a peer.

In any given situation, knowing your value means feeling that you are an equal with anyone you interact with: clients, bosses, colleagues, or friends, you are not a requester.

Nor do you feel privileged to be with someone or to work in a particular type of organisation. 

You have a personal sense of worth and your values will assert you as an equal in both personal and business relationships.

Self-value 4: You should not undercharge for your services.

Quite often out of fear of losing business or the desire to win more business, people will undercharge for their services. 

This is a classic situation where you end up doing much more than you’re paid to do, but, somehow, in a desire to prove ourselves, we still feel that we are not doing enough in relation to how much we are being paid. 

This can set a precedent which could be hard to remove, I recall many years ago I was a taxi driver, and took a client to an airport. 

Deep inside I was unhappy and annoyed, because I was hugely undercharging and unhappy with myself for allowing myself to do so. 

Self-value 5: You understand how to show your values.

You know your boundaries, you are clear about what is acceptable behavior, how you like to be treated and spoken to, and you have the courage to speak out when necessary. 

You don’t need external validation to prove your value — instead, you have internal feelings of what is right and wrong.

Self-value 6: You are engaged in work that is exciting and fulfilling.

When you are doing work that is fulfilling as well as financially rewarding, you are more inclined to work with even greater commitment, when you love what you do, you are prepared to do more and to become more.

Self-value 7: You believe you are worthy and good enough.

When you are talking with somebody or you’re pitching for new business, you believe that you have sufficient experience and have the qualifications, case studies, and testimonials to back your statements up. 

You don’t need another certification, course, degree, or further experience for validating you feel you are good enough, you simply are.

Some of these indicators may resonate with you and others may not, but, in my view, being clear about your values leads to a greater sense of clarity and Self-confidence about who you are and what you stand for, this can be in your personal life as well as in your business. 

This Self-confidence will be reflected in how you interact with people, deliver your service, and in the fees you charge or the salary you earn, people who have self-value and believe in themselves stand out.

Standing out

What Are Your Core Values?

Core values (also called personal values) are what you show of your character, how you behave in what you do. 

They have strong emotional connections for you, so will be important to you no matter what.

Especially in things you like and don’t like, or when you are stressed & tempted to get upset.. 

Core values help you make decisions that will hold true to your most inner self. 

This list is not exhaustive, but gives you an idea of some common Core values. 

Download your copy of over 100 examples of core values, in alphabetical order.

Core Value Tools: Mission and Vision Statements

This post will give you an introduction to both statements, plus, we’ll share some great mission and vision statement examples to help inspire your own. 

Now, let’s dive in.

Core values, in combination with mission and vision statements, are powerful tools in living a life that’s in-tune with your Self-worth, showing your Self-values, your passions and purpose. 

Mission and vision statements

First Step – Personal Mission Statement

A personal mission statement is much like a business mission statement: it describes your convictions, what you stand for, and how you plan to create a life that embodies your core values

In other words, it becomes the definition of your Self-worth and how you will achieve your success – one that is separate from the approval of others.

Your personal mission statement is a statement that is usually a sentence or two, it points to the direction you intend your life to move in, it’s like a map that helps you stay on track, heading in the direction you want to go.

Personal mission statement

 

Why is having a personal mission statement important?

Having a personal mission statement is important because it can act as a decision-making guardrail to decipher how you plan to spend your time, how you interact with others and how you do your job. 

Deciding what to do with your time is equally important as deciding what not to do with your time, for example, if you’ve been asked to complete a task that will take you over your finishing time at work or that is not in line with your mission, it might be best to say no. 

Generally, having a mission with which to guide you into your future can help you achieve both short and long-term goals.

When you find yourself experiencing Imposter Syndrome, self-doubt or resistance to change, you can turn to your personal mission statement, like a north star to reconnect with your deeper purpose, keep you motivated and help you to continue to keep taking action and moving forward..

What is a good mission statement?

Your personal mission statement should only be one or two sentences long, the purpose is to focus only on what matters the most, to help you identify that one thing, try writing down five words that describe you and your purpose, using that list of five words, try writing down the two words that describe you and your purpose the most.

 

Personal mission statement examples:

Here are 40 examples of personal mission statements to help inspire you, as you write your own.

  • 1. “To serve as a leader by encouraging innovative ideas and forward-thinking so that our team can create technology solutions that will improve the lives of others.”
  • 2. “To use my writing skills to inspire and educate others around the world to make change.”
  • 3. “To use my gifts as a speaker to improve the Self-worth of people around the world.”
  • 4. “To inspire children to be more than they thought they could be.”
  • 5. “To be a leader to my team, live a balanced life and make a difference.”
  • 6. “To inspire others to achieve great things.”
  • 7. “To thrive in my journey through life and learn life’s lessons along the way.”
  • 8. “To be kind to others and myself.”
  • 9. “To create innovative healthcare solutions that improve the lives of others.”
  • 10. “To help as many people as possible.”
  • 11. “To be a teacher and inspire my students to be the best version of themselves.”
  • 12. “To help men, women and children find hope after loss.”
  • 13. “To bring joy to others around the world.”
  • 14. “To use my gifts to bring education to women around the globe.”
  • 15. “To positively impact the life of every person I encounter.”
  • 16. “To inspire and encourage everyone I interact with on a daily basis.”
  • 17. “To create new opportunities for today’s youth.”
  • 18. “To encourage and equip others to live the lives they want to live.”
  • 19. “To inspire change through teaching.”
  • 20. “To equip others with the tools and resources to pursue the life they want to live.”
  • 21. “To support and elevate those around me.”
  • 22. “To give students the resources and attention they need to grow into confident, effective adults.”
  • 23. “To improve the quality of life of my clients.”
  • 24. “To create stories that educate, entertain and inspire people around the world.”
  • 25. “To pursue lifelong learning and inspire others to do the same.”
  • 26. “To use my gifts to inspire others to achieve great things.”
  • 27. “To improve the wellbeing of people and businesses throughout the world.”
  • 28. “To treat everyone I encounter with love and compassion.”
  • 29. “To use my gifts and talents to improve the lives of others.”
  • 30. “To create innovative technology solutions that will improve the lives of people around the globe.”
  • 31. “To use my gifts to improve the Self-worth and wealth of Men around the world.”
  • 32. “To inspire others to live the life of their dreams.”
  • 33. “To create innovative healthcare technology for better patient outcomes in vulnerable communities.”
  • 34. “To offer support and inspiration to others through leadership and subject matter expertise.”
  • 35. “To be a source of hope by offering humility, optimism and support to everyone I meet.”
  • 36. “To bring beauty into the world through graphic design.”
  • 37. “To help level the playing field so everyone has an equal opportunity to succeed.”
  • 38. “To educate young minds and create compassionate, empathetic and hard-working members of society.”
  • 39. “To do the best work I can to help the most people possible.”
  • 40. “To leave the world a better place than I found it.”

After you’ve crafted your personal mission statement, it can be useful to understand how you can use and apply it in your everyday life to achieve your goals.

You can download 37 Inspiring Mission Statement Templates (Business or Personal) [Here].

There’s  a good example here of a student’s mission to make the most of their high school experience.

Examples of a Mission Statement

When conducting interviews, employers will likely ask you a question like, “Tell me about yourself,” or “Why do you want to work for this company?” or “What motivates you?” Using your personal mission statement to guide your answers to these questions can help you prepare a thoughtful and impressive response. 

Researching the company beforehand can help you identify the values you share—be sure to include those in your answer as well.

 identify the values you share.

Second Step – Personal Vision Statement.

It’s easy to get distracted, to lose sight of what’s important to you.

When we get disconnected from our life’s direction, other people’s agendas come before our own.

Have you noticed how, at times, every phone call, email, and notification on your screen draw your full attention? While at other times, you’re absorbed in your work regardless of the distraction?

Vision doesn’t eliminate distraction, it inspires us to focus on what matters.

Vision provides clarity for the future, while directing us to place our attention in the present.

Four Reasons Why We Struggle With Our Vision

There are at least four underlying reasons, understanding these blocks can free us from the resistance that keeps us from crafting a personal vision statement.

First – there’s cultural conditioning

From when we start to learn onward, we have been conditioned to make life decisions based on a limited understanding.

We make choices based on what’s in front of us; and what we believe to be available to us.

Creating a vision demands that we draw from an infinite range of choices, which makes us uncomfortable.

Visualization is a working muscle, many of us stopped exercising this muscle during childhood.

So now, it feels uncomfortable to try to visualize our future, we end up worrying that we’re not doing it right.

We tell ourselves we can’t visualize our future or that it doesn’t work for us, that’s simply a belief, one ungrounded and untrue, and as we grow older sometimes we see it .

The more we visualize, the better we get at creating using our imagination.

We are afraid we may not succeed, we question our competence, our ability to persevere.

We are uncertain of our value: are we worthy of having big goals?

A part of us is used to having a lack of Self-worth, to this part, safety is more important than growth, and a vision is a roadmap to growth.

The vast range of options we must draw upon scares us a little.

We believe we need the “right” vision, the perfect vision, and we feel we need to be methodical

The perfectionist in us needs to craft an ideal vision statement that’s timeless, and will stay the same forever.

Naturally, this doesn’t reflect reality, it’s a false belief, we make mistakes as we learn, then we put them right, this is called growing, in becoming aware of this false belief, it will no longer limit us.

Before You Start Planning Your Vision

So there is a fifth reason people struggle with finding their vision: they don’t get into the right mental and physical state before doing this type of process.

You will create a personal vision by going through a discovery process to clarify what’s most important to you.

In order to do this, you must be in a frame of mind that’s open, alert, centered, and ready, we can call this mindset the state of mastery.

I found a simple and effective method for entering this state at will, called The Mastery Method

A multi-layered guided process and audio program with brainwave entrainment technology designed for busy people,

(You can listen to a sample of this program Here.)

Below are two methods to help you access this state quickly and easily.

If you already have your own methods for finding your center, terrific, use them.

Or, try using the following exercises to prime yourself before you go through any of the discovery questions listed below.

Exercise 1 – Quiet your mind with your breathing

To get in the right frame of mind, the key is to find your center.

When you’re in your center, you are fully present, your mind isn’t racing to the future or ruminating in the past, instead, it’s calm, empty, and alert.

In your center, you aren’t inflated or deflated, you avoid extremes in either direction.

To help center yourself, gently make your breathing slow, steady, and rhythmic.

Exercise 2 – Connect to Your Heart

Next, place your awareness on your heart, gently smile inwardly at your heart.

Breathe in and acknowledge your heart, breathe out and say to your heart, “Thank you.

Do this for three full breaths, still inhaling and exhaling calmly, smoothly, and quietly.

Feel the warmth of being connected to your true self.

7 Parts To Exploring Your Personal Vision Statement

When you’re calm, focused and in the right frame of mind, you will feel better and it will be easier to proceed to discover what’s important in your life.

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Here is a list of the parts to consider when you’re ready to create your personal vision statement: Designed by Scott Jeffrey

  1. Core Values: What are the five to ten things you stand by and value the most?
  2. Interests: What are the ten things you enjoy doing the most? What sets your heart and emotions alive? What is it you can’t live without?
  3. Areas of Focus: What are the major categories of your life that always need your attention? 

A list of sample categories is in the wheel of life, the entire circle represents your overall life and each piece represents a different area of focus. 

It may look something like this:

 the wheel of life
  1. Strengths: What are you naturally good at? What have you excelled at? 
  2. Dreams: If this was your last day on earth, what would you regret not doing, seeing, or creating?
  3. Kills: What are the areas you really want to cultivate skills in that will in some way enrich your life’s experience?
  4. Profession: What are the things you must do to feel fulfilled in your work?
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So, How Do I Go About Writing It And What Are The Steps?

When composing your own statement, find a quiet place where you feel at ease and where you will not be interrupted. 

Then follow the below steps and guiding questions.

  • What personal qualities do you most want to emphasize in yourself?
  • How can you use and display these qualities in a working environment?
  • What are the most important values you want to express at work?
  • For example: Imagine that you are managing and leading the project of your dreams, envision that everything is exactly the way you want it to be: the type of project you are running, the industry it is in, its size and complexity, the people involved, and your own capabilities as a project manager and leader, imagine that you are every bit as successful as you want to be, feel it and see it.
  • Keep imagining yourself in the future, and be as specific as possible in your observations, where exactly are you? Who is your client? What are you doing? Who are you interacting with? What does the project look like? How big is it? How are you feeling? Why do you want to be exactly where you are? What is the bigger impact you are having?
  • Draw a picture of yourself and your surroundings five years from now, draw the elements you see, feel, and hear, use as many colours (they help) as you want and be as detailed as possible.
  • Write to the following questions: How can you sum up your vision and mission as a project manager? What are the things you ultimately want to achieve? Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? What is the impact you would like to have and how would you like to be remembered?
  • What will need to happen in order for you to feel proud of your progress as a project manager in five years’ time?

Now, take everything—the envisioning, writing, drawing, dreaming—and use the language and imagery to write your own vision and mission statement.

 Give yourself as many drafts as you need to refine it. 

Remember it should express the values that you would like to live and work by, and that above all you must feel excited and inspired by it when you read it aloud.

Put it on a nice piece of card, a gold or red coloured would work great, put your mission on one side and your vision on the other, laminate it and carry it with you in your wallet or purse.

Whenever you stop for coffee or lunch, pull it out and have it next to you on the table and read it many times, you could make a post on canva and put it as your desktop image, or print it off and put it on your wall in a frame, as I have.

In the next part to this 5 part blog, I will be delving in deep about Pt3. Self-achievement – You will show your worth in how you do the things you do equal to what you think your worth and the values you show, which is what happens when we apply the level of care for yourselves to supply you with what you require to enjoy your life.

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