Pt5.. Self-Happiness – How To Be Your Best You.

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Part 5.. Self-Happiness 

What it means to be aligned with your self-worth and values, and overcome anything that life puts in front of you without the stress.

There Are 5 Parts To How To Be Your Best You.

This List Of 5 Parts Is The List To Happiness.

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  • Part 1.. Self-Worth - What is self-worth? 
  • Part 2.. Self-Value - Do you know your values?
  • Part 3.. Self-Achievement - You will show your worth in how you do the things you do equal to what you think your worth.
  • Part 4.. Self-Confidence - Every achievement you accomplish (no matter how big or small) you gain more and more confidence in yourself.
  • Part 5.. Self-Happiness - What it means to be aligned with your self-worth and values, and overcome anything that life puts in front of you without the stress.

Self-Happiness - it’s something we all aim for

Achieving happiness is everyone’s dream along with health, wealth, and success in our endeavours.

Finding satisfaction with life, both past, present, and future can be tricky but it is possible, it's even easier than maybe you think.

As a much sought after emotional state, happiness can appear briefly, or be influenced by many other issues in our work and lives, making it difficult to find.

Happiness can be defined in a variety of ways and the key to finding happiness in life is to define what makes you happy and what you want to achieve. 

Then, you can start working towards your what makes you happy.

happy girl with drink

In this guide, we will explore what happiness is, how to find happiness within yourself, and the simple steps you can take to feel happier on a regular basis.

However, there are numerous ways to find happiness along the way – for life is about the journey and not just about reaching a final destination.

Happiness - it’s something we all aim for, along with health, wealth, and success in our endeavours.

However, finding happiness in everyday life can be a difficult task. 

As a much sought-after emotional state, happiness can appear briefly, or be influenced by many other issues in our work and lives, making it difficult to find.

What is Self-happiness?

Self-Happiness is the mental state of experiencing positive or pleasant emotions.

In my experience, many people define happiness as the feeling of intense joy, which may make it harder to feel like we’re happy in our everyday lives. In fact, there are many levels to happiness, starting from a sense of contentment, and ranging through to exhilarating jubilation.

Many of us set off on a quest to reach exhilarating happiness highs on a regular basis, and this often ends in disappointment. Instead of happiness, try focusing on contentment.

being content

What is contentment?

Contentment is the mental state of experiencing satisfaction in your present state. 

It is often felt when practicing mindfulness, or feeling comfortable in your mind, body, and surroundings, and achievements.

While we all experience a range of emotions each day, it can be helpful to practice finding contentment on a regular basis.

Next time you take a tea break, or sit back after completing a piece of work, give yourself a minute or two to practice feeling good in your body, mind, and with your daily accomplishments.

Being content

Keep your values

Never, ever, ever compromise your Self-Values.
Your Self-Values are part of what makes you who you are.
Don’t compromise them for any person or any job.
These are important to hold onto as they define your character.
The more that you hold onto your values, along with the more that you actually honour them at the same time, then the happier you will be overall.

Give yourself a confidence boost

Why would you bother increasing your happiness if you didn't think you could be successful at it? 

You wouldn't.

That's why it's so important to build your Self-Confidence - to prove to yourself that you can increase your happiness. 

The best way to do this is by starting with easier skills - skills like gratitude or prioritizing spending time doing fun things. 

Get a quick win, and you'll be more Self-Confident that you really can change your life.

An attitude of gratitude

An attitude of gratitude means creating a conscious mindset and habit to be thankful, and express appreciation for, every aspect of your life, both big and small.

When you have an attitude of gratitude you are focused on expanding the positives in your life, rather than dwelling on the negatives.

Some of the benefits of having an attitude of gratitude are:

  • Improves your mental and physical health by reducing stress and anxiety, boosting your immune system, and enhancing your mood.
  • Strengthens your relationships by making you more empathetic, generous, and supportive towards others.
  • Increases your happiness and satisfaction by helping you appreciate what you have, rather than what you lack.
  • Motivates you to achieve your goals by inspiring you to work hard, learn from failures, and celebrate successes.

Some of the habits that can help you develop an attitude of gratitude are:

Sweat the small stuff: find joy in simple things like a sunny day, a good meal, or a smile from a stranger.

Say ‘thank you’ as much as possible: express your gratitude verbally or in writing to anyone who has helped you or made your day better.

Keep a gratitude journal: write down at least three things that you are grateful for every day.

Practice gratitude meditation: focus on feeling grateful for yourself, others, and the world around you during a quiet time.

Volunteer or donate: give back to your community or a cause that matters to you by offering your time or resources.

Showing gratitude

Do what you love

It is also important to do the activities that you love. These will make you happier overall. If you love running, then make sure that you squeeze in a run every single day. It might not be as long as you want if you are short on time, but you will feel immensely happier if you make the effort to do something instead of nothing.

  • Recognise your passions and purpose. Finding your passions and purpose in life is essential to your overall happiness and attaining greater satisfaction in your life. This can be something as simple as helping others on a daily basis, chequing in on an elderly neighbour or something as complicated as changing your job or even your career, in order to make a difference whilst you are here on earth. It is quite fulfilling once you find your purpose and what you can do in order to help others, and to help the planet, or to be a part of something bigger than yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid of the change. Most people don’t change their internal belief systems or negative thought patterns simply because they are scared of change. Once you recognise this and are able to make these changes, then you will find that change isn’t always scary, maybe sometimes even fun. You can then make changes more comfortable by leaning into it instead of away from it.
  • Write a list of what you really do love and enjoy doing. If your list is too general, identify the where, what, when, why, and how to identify the specific parts of what exactly you enjoy doing and why. Your list may be a combination of hobbies, likes, loves, and interests etc.
Don't be afraid of the change

Concentrating on what makes you happy in the present moment {The Now} will further surpass what you think will make you happy in the future. If you spend more time enjoying the now, you will spend less time fretting over the past or worrying about the future.

How to find happiness within yourself

Now that I’ve introduced you to the concept of contentment, here’s six steps I tend to recommend to anyone looking to feel more positive in their daily life.

Reframing and changing how you view happiness, and where your happiness comes from, can bring about simple little changes that really make a difference.

Here’s a six-step process to feeling happier in your life and your work life:


Once you’ve started checking-in with yourself, you can also begin to address any areas that may be troubling you.

Often, internal problems can reduce self-esteem, so it may be worth spending some time looking after yourself.

The NHS notes that I recently read focusing on self-esteem can make you happy, saying “The best way to improve your self-esteem is to treat yourself as you'd treat a valued friend, in a positive but honest way.”

This is a great way to review how you look after yourself, especially if you also work for yourself.

Thinking of yourself as your best boss, or your best friend, can help you to reframe how you treat yourself and enable you to treat yourself in a kinder, fairer, more rational way.

And on top of that, allow yourself to be vulnerable, even at work.

Noting your problem areas, or your weaknesses, is an important first step in finding support for them or overcoming your issues altogether.


Similar to practicing looking inwards, taking time to be present and in the now throughout your day will enable you to fully take in your surroundings and your emotions, connect with your emotions on a deeper level.

Practicing mindfulness at work is becoming a new strategy that businesses like Google and Facebook are encouraging their staff to do, so you may wish to try this in your role, or with your team.

Being present and in the now may also enable you to experience happiness on a more regular basis, and on a deeper level of understanding.


The third step is to practice looking inwards about how your thoughts drive your emotions, with a view to discover happiness from within you.

This is an activity that takes time and effort, but makes for a worthwhile habit.

Start by regularly checking in with yourself, and identify how you’re feeling. If you’re stressed, try implementing a stress-management strategy, or if you’re feeling like you could take better care of yourself, try setting up a self-care plan for yourself, don’t forget to add the pampering part.


Many people connect happiness to the achievement of certain goals or aspirations, which are usually outside of your control at this moment.

This practice makes happiness a reward, rather than an emotion that deserves to be felt on a daily basis.

Instead of chasing goals, and as an extension of chasing happiness, allow yourself to feel happiness whenever it comes your way.


Following on from the last point, the second downside to pinning happiness on external goals is that you may fall into unhelpful thinking habits.

By placing your happiness onto something external, you may forget that feeling happy is something that comes from inside you, and can be found by looking inwards, rather than waiting for an external action to invoke it.

Try reframing how you approach happiness, and instead of making it a long-awaited goal, think about what makes you happy on a regular basis and in the here and now.

This may be time with family, friends, or a loved one, or doing a certain activity, such as painting, cycling, or cooking and something you’re passionate about.

Give yourself permission to schedule these moments of happiness into your life on a regular daily basis.


The final step in this six-step process is to take time to appreciate yourself.

Appreciate your work, your life, and your accomplishments.

You can find happiness by simply reflecting on past happenings, some of them achievements, and others simply pleasant experiences.

If you’re a freelancer or entrepreneur, try reflecting on your journey on a regular basis. It’s easy to get swept up with future plans, and forget how well you’ve done previously

By focusing on your past experiences, you’ll not only re-experience the emotions that certain milestones brought, but also find ways to improve yourself and your business too.

Thank you for reading this article about how to improve Self-Happiness.

I really hope that you enjoyed it and take action on the advice given in this article .

I wish you good luck and I hope its contents have been a good help to you.

Developed by Carl Dunn - Mindset Mind.

February 18, 2023 in Mindset Mind

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